This is a perfectly reasonable expectation. When you have a wife and take a concubine, the concubine knows that you have obligations to your wife that supersede your obligations to her.
But she expects to feel loved by you and not get STD’s.
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Game theory pretty much proves that the long game is not a strategy most people can execute at all. That's because it tends to require a negative short-term position in exchange for a real advantage later. Most people cannot commit to this because their threat-detection system reads current loss as an existential failure. And that's vicious short-sightedness. It leads them to optimize for visible progress and sacrifice their real position. The people who constantly win rarely have better information. Instead, they accept that losing now will pay off later. Never quit a game before it starts.
The average man is too honest in places where he should be strategic, and too dishonest in places where he should be accountable. He reveals his plans to strangers, but lies to himself about his habits. Power begins when you reverse this. Be private with the world. Be mercilessly honest with yourself.
Be civil to everyone. Be close to almost no one. Access to you should be earned slowly and revoked quickly. That's the price of having standards. In your entire life, the amount people can be trusted without a doubt can be counted on a single hand.