As a man,
If you're married to a first daughter child from a struggling family, & you're also from a shrugging family.
Please take care of your immediate family first.
But when you want to extend kindness to your extended family, please do it to your own siblings first.
Your wife's family will be highly dependent on your income, and your own family will be looking to you for help too.
Please uplift your own family out of poverty first, before thinking of your wife's.
Otherwise, your wife will use your money to upgrade her family and later shame your own family for being poor & even try to block you from helping them.
Forget that she's your wife and mother of your children.
She also has brothers, and her brothers will do the same if they were in your shoes.
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Agba, This story is similar to the one currently happening in my estate, only that the man is still in jail in china.
This woman sold all her husband’s properties, including the one they were living in, and started living on rented apartments. Brought another man to start living with them. Got pregnant for the man and gave birth. When the man saw things weren’t as rosy as before he ran away.
Right now the woman and her four children are sleeping outside as we speak. The whole rain that has been falling this season, Dey beat dem wetin no good 😭😭💔.
Agba, you need to see these children, children who were born in affluence are now living in penury. My mama don cry tire for these children.
They’ve all stopped sch.
The eldest child (a girl), who’s barely 16 years has begun small small prostitution here and there. The mama Dey push am.
The husband friends who were fighting for the case in china, at some point saw that the wife who is supposed to be the pillar is living wayward, backed out of the case and refused any financial benevolence been rendered.
See ehn, a promiscuous wife is not only dangerous to her husband but also to her children .
From my DM:
My father married my mom out of pity, and he regretted it. He wants me to understand seriously that I should never get married to a woman out of pity.
At first, my father started hitting my mom when he found that she purposely removed a child for him.
Fast forward to 2013 when my father left for China but due to some circumstances, he was locked up in jail for 12 years.
He returned to Nigeria earlier this year, while in prison, he told my mom to only sell the car he have so she can be able to pay our new terms school fees.
But my mom sold every property he had and went to live in a cheaper house. Of course, the house we were living in was extremely expensive; my father was rich.
When she told my father, he didn't complain that much. Each time my father called from prison, sometimes she didn't answer.
On the day she did answer, my father asked her where she was, and she said she was at the market.
My father told her it was noisy, and as they were discussing something else, my mother told my father that he should not be in China commanding her on what to do in Nigeria. She then ended the call.
On another day, he called her. She picked up the call and was complaining that our house rent would expire soon, so my father provided the house rent from prison.
After she took that money from him, she stopped receiving my father's calls to this day.
In 2017, she slept with another man and got pregnant. My grandfather died then. She came for the burial and that's when my uncle's wife discovered that she was pregnant.
She ran away and later aborted the child.
Now my father is back. Do you know I have been telling her to call my father, but she didn't call him? She's saying it's my father who is supposed to call her. Even their family is saying the same thing.
Well, I have stopped talking to her. I'm pained, and I don't even know how hurt my father will be. I'm a man, and I know how I feel. That means I don't think my dad will ever forgive her.
Now my father is thinking of divorcing her.
I think I'm in support of it and I'll never take care of my mother till she leaves this Life.
I'm the first child. I have 3 siblings: 2 boys and 1 girl.
If they think they can take care of her, they should go ahead; I won't stop them. But as for me, bro, I'll never ever do it.
And if she dies I won't accept to bury her in my father's compound if my father is dead by then. (I'm not wishing death for them) But that's reality of life.
He's 21 years old.
What do you have to say about his family's situation?
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