Bryce

security analyst | music explorer

[scott 🌞 @scottdomes]

being "smart" is often a coping mechanism

obviously raw intelligence isn't, but the ability to marshal intelligence into specific shapes that our society recognizes... aka the ability to earn recognition at school & at home... is something that is often motivated by an innate sense of inferiority

being perceived as smart thus becomes the balm to the inferiority... a balm, but not a cure, because it requires the continued performance of "smart"

"if you're so smart why aren't you happy?" -> because the mind is solving for "being perceived as smart" rather than solving for "happy". that's the pattern it's been trained on

thus the actual underlying intelligence is subverted -> chasing validation is obviously not the "smart" path, but a mind that's desperately fending off a sense of inferiority can't see that -> so we do things that LOOK like proof of intelligence but are motivated by a self-defeating paradigm

[scott 🌞 @scottdomes]

some people are caught up in their own bullshit but earnestly want to find their way out, and other people are caught up in their own bullshit and are happy to stay there

I always find it rather jarring to encounter the latter

(of course, you could say that the not-wanting-to-see-the-truth is itself a meta layer of BS, but it's a thick & impermeable one. rarely moves on its own, needs a big shock)

[BONESAW 🕊️ @BonesawMD]

Even if you currently work a job, you develop this particular self-sustaining inner power when you're truly aligned with yourself. Undeniable flavour. You notice with each passing day, you become more & more unemployable. Your body decides before your mind concludes it, because you betray yourself less in your own life, you know what true freedom is supposed to feel like. Nothing to do with the money you're working to earn. You experience the wealth of your sovereignty. Every aspect of its sensation becomes known to you.

All cope is useless. Rationalisations you used to accept feel less convincing. Performativeness & silly corporate games develop a new unbearable stench. There's no going back.

Only a matter of time.

[🕊️ @lichthauch]

I would only tell a man's daughter one thing, that most men are profoundly lost, frightened creatures who do not understand themselves, let alone you. they arrive with their needs poorly disguised as affection and they are so sturdily convinced of their own sincerity that they will fool you for months, sometimes years. and this is not because they are evil, it is because they are unfinished. and unfinished men do terribly stupid things to the women that love them and then stand there baffled at the wreckage, as if some other man inside them did it all. that so the one thing i would tell her is this, you will not be able to tell the unfinished ones from the finished ones by their words. you can only tell by what they do when they are angry, or tired, or scared. that is where you see what you are actually working with

[Mary Zoso, Holistic Sex Coach @MaryZoso]

i go through this thought process every year too (it’s too expensive, i’m too busy, it’s a waste of time, i don’t really belong there, it sounds stressful, etc) and almost decide not to go but end up going anyway and then it’s amazing and magical and transformatively healing and i’m so glad i went again and i should really remember this when the doubts come back up but i probably won’t and right-now me really hopes that future me will get passed the doubts again in time to go to vibecamp 6 🤞

[Pyrate @CEOLandshark]

With literally endless information at their fingertips, people are in for a (rude) awakening - it was never about the lack of info. Your biggest blockers are/were almost never about not having the information.

The actual bottleneck is the mind + nervous system. As people start to realize this, it'll feel very disorienting - because it demands a total change, and doing the exact things you've been avoiding your entire life.

Not necessarily a bad time - it can be flourishing time if you resist it zero. Most will choose to distract themselves. Others will ascend. There's no rush.

[yatharth ༺༒༻ @AskYatharth]

“yeah, nothing particularly bad happened to me in my childhood”

“yeah, i just treated it like a warzone where i had to isolate everyone from my true emotional state till i made it out”

“yeah, i still look behind my shoulder sometimes. to see if the monsters are coming”

[grace @gracefishlove]

Sorry about the mean things i said when i was right

[Fav ⛧ @Favwontmiss]

On late diagnosed ADHD: I keep discovering that things I thought were just “my personality” are actually elaborate ways I’ve been masking and overcompensating for ADHD without even realizing it. It’s genuinely disorienting to suddenly not know which parts of me are real and which parts are just coping mechanisms I’ve been performing for decades.

[Codetaur @codetaur]

15hz with low phosphor decay vs 60hz with high phosphor decay

[dakota @im2hai]

@Techbitian_13 well no they are clearly lying to me!!!!!

[Techbitian @Techbitian_13]

@im2hai Being found attractive by others as a former weird kid

[PET HOME @catmoaaw]

highly recommend owning a cat because it makes dealing with every negative emotion a little bit easier. it's difficult to feel the full weight of crushing reality when a little freak is doing olympic laps around your home after taking a loud shit

[Izzat Hayes @AnimeSerbia]

Yeah youre way behind. Im being completely sincere when I say ive never seen someone dig their way out of a hole this size

[eigenrobot @eigenrobot]

AI is not currently good enough to cause me to lose my job but i expect ive got maybe a year to figure out how to move up several abstraction layers some of which may not even exist yet

this is going to get weird because idk how people starting careers will even begin

[Gris @gris2049]

This is what Heidegger called thrownness. you didn’t choose your starting conditions, the year you graduated, whether your college roommate happened to be starting a company in 2018 or if you landed at Anthropic or OpenAI.

The people outside that $20M circle aren’t failing. they’re experiencing what every human always has, the radical contingency of life. SF just makes the “throwness” more visible. most people never get that data, here you get it every day in real time.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

Heidegger’s answer is authenticity. you don’t overcome thrownness but you own it. stop measuring your throw against everyone else’s and ask what you actually want to do from here? most people never get to that question.

[Anticommie @QueenAnticommie]

Is this true my Texas friends?

[Spartak @assorium]

@harrrmy I work from home because my cat needs me

[Harmy @harrrmy]

you’re not autistic you just work from home and it’s making you weird

[Brad @Brad08414464]

I’m beginning to think that people don’t really want to work at companies. what they really want is to work at a research lab or a creative studio or a think tank or some other communal setup where likeminded people can do interesting things together