I’ve never trusted men who have an aversion to and disgust for the crass and the inelegant. The same kind of man who can’t enjoy the obscene (dark humour), low culture (hip-hop), or the crass (swearing) is a treacherous man, because he has no stomach for the ugly - he is a weak man, because rather than transmute the ugly into beauty, he patently rejects it.
He does not recognise dark humour as the transmutation of pain into joy, because he gets offended. He does not recognise hip-hop as a productive and artistic way to channel aggression and the atavistic will to power, because he views it as uncultured, and he doesn’t even tolerate cussing, because he wants too badly to be immaculate - his sense of hygiene is skewed in that it is not merely righteous, but pretentious. He thinks he is above ugliness, when in truth a man who never embraces ugliness is incapable of being beautiful.
He rejects some of the most fundamental tenets of the masculine spirit - that we become ugly for a greater good, that we cannot be great without trips to hell, and that going on such trips is violently messy. He, in his hubris, thinks he is above it all and therefore need not dirty his hands - that he is better than the men who enjoy such things, when really he is just a brat of the highest order. A snob.
@TheWhaleBus@ryzemeta Possible, but Elon musk's instance is especially naive. He has plenty of friends who could recommend prestige-level doctors and he somehow chooses the clumsy scammer.
Napolean? It's pointless to list contradictions, since I'm assuming you just mean this applies to the majority of smart ppl. But yeah, I'd assume higher intelligence is correlared with greater ability to socialize.
Also certain disorders ie ADHD, low serotonin, etc will effect ability to socialize regardless of IQ.
In general neurotypical high IQ > neurotypical lower IQ in terms of socializing though.
There’s a reason why intelligent men “struggle” with women beyond “high inhibition” and “overthinking”.
It’s that they’re simply less likely to participate in the dating game.
Whether you like it or not, dating is extremely performative. Both on the man’s end and the woman’s end. There’s a lot of fake. There’s a lot of cringe. We add a bunch of unnecessary layers and complications to a simple reality - we all want love, sex and intimacy.
Intelligent men see through it all. The cringemaxxing, the humiliation rituals, the performance. Once you see the competitive mating game clearly for what it is, you simply lose interest in participating. It would feel forced and inauthentic. Even the intelligent guys who get girls never truly fall in love with them. They remain detached and calculating, understanding that she is also under an illusion. He sees through the act. He sees through the words. He sees through her.
When you see things from the lens of “there’s a bunch of male animals competing to impregnate the female animal, and the female animal will pick the best one for her needs to ensure the continued survival of the species” it really takes away the mystical, romantic and love aspect from dating. It’s all transaction and biology disguised as something profound and deep.
They would rather not jump through a bunch of hoops and instead live in peace and freedom, even though the cost might be emotional and sexual fulfillment.
Intelligent men also usually come to the conclusion that the pursuit of women is a fruitless endeavor of which the reward doesn’t justify the effort. They have the awareness to see their own biological impulses and how it’s a means to an end.
When you see the circus show for what it is, it becomes far less interesting. It is only your libido and purposely falling back into the illusion that keeps you playing the game. Many of you realize the truths I’m speaking about when you have post nut clarity but then fall back into the illusion again when lust takes over.
We play because we don’t want to confront the silence that comes with breaking free. And that’s fine, because if we all have an awakening and stop playing, humanity ceases to exist.