Chad Fleming

Dad, Husband, Coach….All views expressed are my own

[Chad Fleming @cflem24]

@CoachForGov Unless coach leaves, then you get another free transfer as that is outside of the athletes control

[Dr Danish @operationdanish]

We now have evidence that gentle parenting doesn’t work.

Here’s an uncomfortable truth about parenting no one wants to say out loud:

The data is not kind to gentle parenting.

According to teenagers, strict curfews. strict bedtimes, screen limits, device drop off times, dedicated homework blocks, and sleepover restrictions IMPROVE higher relationship quality.

And yes, parenting difficulty goes up.

Of course it does. Leadership is harder than appeasement.

For the past decade we have been sold a watered down, Instagram friendly version of “gentle parenting” that often collapses into boundary avoidance, endless negotiation and emotional processing without enforcement. Parents terrified of saying no because they do not want to rupture connection.

But connection without authority is not connection. It is dependency.

When parents impose structure, the relationship improves.

Teenagers report better parent child relationship quality in homes with curfews and rules. Younger kids report better relationships in homes with screen limits and bedtimes. Even device drop off times correlate positively.

Why?

Because structure is not cruelty. Structure is love made visible.

A bedtime says: your brain matters more than your entertainment.

A screen limit says: your dopamine system is not fully developed and I will guard it until it is.

A curfew says: your safety matters more than your social standing.

That is not authoritarianism. That is caring.

Boundaries create friction. Friction creates growth. The parent absorbs the short term discomfort so the child does not pay the long term cost.

Children do not experience well calibrated limits as rejection. They experience them as stability. The human brain craves predictability. Predictability reduces anxiety. Reduced anxiety strengthens attachment.

That is why relationship quality goes up.

Notice something else in the data. The strongest effects are around time structure. Bedtime. Homework. Devices. Outside play. These are environmental constraints. They scaffold executive function.

The winning formula is not tyranny.

It is high warmth plus high structure.

The modern failure mode is high warmth plus low structure. That is just abdication of responsibility wrapped in empathy.

Children need leadership, not negotiation. They need adults who can tolerate their anger. They need boundaries that do not move every time emotions spike. They need someone whose prefrontal cortex is fully myelinated.

The harder path produces the stronger bond.

Because when a child feels that someone is strong enough to hold the line, they relax. And relaxed nervous systems build durable relationships.

[The Winning Difference @thewinningdiff1]

The difference is the relentless effort you decide to give for your team.

[Nebraska Huskers @Huskers]

One of those days.

[Chad Fleming @cflem24]

3rd annual Nasty Boys draft after practice … great tradition for the boys!

[Chad Fleming @cflem24]

@murphsturph @Andrew__Slater You would have to try harder to not sign a 4/5 ⭐️ at UNC then you would to sign one

[“Sudden And Unexpected” @toobaffled]

Former Japanese Minister Proves He Has Covid "Vaccine" Induced Cancer

Former Japanese Minister of Internal Affairs and Communications Kazuhiro Haraguchi @kharaguchi just shared analysis of his cancer cells :

"This is an analysis of my cancer cells.
Even two years after receiving the COVID-19 vaccine, spike proteins were found in the malignant lymphoma.

Conversely, N proteins were not detected. This indicates that I had not been infected with COVID-19."

We must put an end to the tragedies caused by the COVID-19 vaccine as soon as possible.

https://t.co/agrARHvyXO

[Peter Mallouk @PeterMallouk]

My advice this week:

If you are young, congratulations, you've been given a gift. To the extent you save with each paycheck, or regularly in a retirement plan, keep investing!

For those at or near retirement, for nearly 5 years you have wondered why in the world you have bonds in your portfolio. Well, now you know. If you are properly allocated, you have more than enough bonds to get you through the next few year. You are not at the mercy of the market. The odds are overwhelming stocks will be at new highs before you need to access money from that part of your portfolio. Enjoy your day, ignore the markets, and embrace the chaos. This is the exact reason stocks provide better returns over the long run.

[Chad Fleming @cflem24]

LETS GO!!

[Frank Michael Smith @frankmikesmith]

The best kept secret in college basketball is about go mainstream

[Justin Miller @Justin_cMiller]

Stirtz embracing with his family

[Chad Fleming @cflem24]

@VandalsWBB Atta girl O!!!

[Chad Fleming @cflem24]

@USATODAY No brainer hire for @IUHoosiers

[Drake Basketball @DrakeBulldogsMB]

𝗦𝘁𝗮𝘁 𝗦𝗵𝗲𝗲𝘁 𝗦𝘁𝘂𝗳𝗳𝗲𝗿

With another 20-point outing, Bennett Stirtz is the first player in program history to record 500 points and 150 assists in a single season!

#CultureWins l #DSMHometownTeam

[Dick Vitale @DickieV]

Time to give some hoops love to @DrakeBulldogsMB as they are 23-2! Coach Ben McCoullen had been a big time winner on D-2 level for years before being coach at Drake.

[Chad Fleming @cflem24]

Unbelievably bad clock management by the #Chiefs

[Dov Kleiman @NFL_DovKleiman]

"The NFL is rigged for Patrick Mahomes and the Chiefs."

(📸 @NFLonCBS)

[Nebraska Huskers @Huskers]

Jack Hoffman embodied what it means to be a Husker every day through his courage, fight, and inspiration.

We are heartbroken by his loss and send all our love to the Hoffman family.

[End Wokeness @EndWokeness]

CA Governor Gavin Newsom brags about "the largest dam removal in U.S. history" because Native tribes said to save fish

[Holly Mortimer @themamamort]

Please sign the petition for @rue_wells to play his senior year @metrosports_mk @MattFlenerKMBC @Ltownsportfacts @bluecrewcrazies @810varsity @cdotharrison @PeteMundo @KMBZradio @RadioDana @laura22116758

https://t.co/BtI02xOM2K

[Andy Katz @TheAndyKatz]

My convo with one of the stories of the season: @DrakeBulldogsMB Ben McCollum, who has the Bulldogs as one of the last undefeated teams after coming from D2 Northwest Missouri State. For @NABC1927: https://t.co/aUFXPWkLrW