It stayed with me because it made me see those Saturdays differently. Looking back now, I don’t remember the pancakes. I remember the conversation in the car.
Sometimes, what looks like favoritism from the outside is simply love responding to a need that nobody else could see. That doesn’t mean the other child doesn’t feel the difference. It just means love isn’t always understood the way it’s intended.
When making your mind up about someone you do not reduce them to their weakest moments, nor the most recent bad thing they did. You look at patterns: capacities, intentions, tendencies and trajectories, and it is from this you arrive at a much fairer and more honest conclusion.
The highest wealth for a kid: growing up with two intellectually curious parents who have the courage to take risks, and who remain enthusiastic about their own agency and their own ability to write a great life story. That's the kind of parent you should aim to be.
The truth is that there are no good men, or bad men. It is the deeds that have goodness or badness in them.
There are good deeds, and bad deeds.
Men are just men—it is what they do, or refuse to do, that links them to good and evil. #Shantaram