Facts of life as a Malaysian nurse. Why am I mistreated in the only country that I call home?!?!
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🔘 Employed by 3 giant private hospitals in Klang Valley ↪️ I was humiliated & bullied in 2 of these hospitals by immediate nursing managers.
To all those students who’ve had a question, but worried that it’s too obvious, or unnecessary, or worst of all, stupid…
Ask.
As someone who answers questions for a living, let me tell you something about questions.
They’re more than just questions. 1/
people will always have an opinion on what you do and how you do it — especially when they have nothing better to do. let them talk — or don't, it's up to you. just whatever you do... don't listen. don't internalize their projections and pathetic attempt to live through you.
I think when we meet people in our everyday lives it is important to allow them to tell you who they are rather than quickly reducing them to labels and also people are more than just about their outward appearance, what kind of hair they have, what kind of clothes they wear etc
Rule of thumb if you want to be an active ally - it's about them first, not you. You can support, but you're not the main star of the show. Let the people who know their own people and their own lived everyday reality lead.
My parents just graduated their 4th Dr out of their 5 children.
I graduated with a PhD in cancer research, my brother is a dentist, my first sister is a medical doctor and my second sister is a dentist.
This is how they cultivated an academic home:
In my readings of books about “reimagining masculinity”, I’ve come across authors using the Semai people of the Malay Peninsula as an example of a culture that doesn’t have your typical culture of manhood with an emphasis on aggression, competition, and status.
I’m meeting an adoptive father who wants to return his adoptive 13 year year old son, this morning. They wanted to return him 4 years ago but changed their minds. Have waited 8 years to get his citizenship. Nothing. They’ve also had their own biological daughter.
@paulg I wonder how much of it comes down to simply breaking the generational family cycles. Having the courage to change, not repeat your parents "sins", doing the good things they did, not doing what they failed to do. Simply just being the parents you wished you had.
I asked a friend who's a criminal defense lawyer what he'd change about the world to fix the most problems. He specializes in death penalty cases, so he's seen a lot. I expected him to say drugs, but he said if he could change one thing, it would be to make people better parents.