"Time for women to be in charge, and men to submit!"
That could work: women just need to become sexually turned on by low status / low value men. You'd genetically incentivize male submission and y'all would rule us, just like in the insect world.
Feminist ladies, any takers?
There is so much more comfort in knowing that God will bless you where you work as long as you are not pursuing sin. Otherwise you spend your life tearing your hair out trying to read the tea leaves, wondering if God has "Laid on your heart" some vague notion of what you need to be doing specifically. Or if you "Feel led" to do a thing by God or your feeling is your own.
This is one of the comforts I had in seminary. I never "Felt called" or had anything laid on my heart. I was merely obeying the Scripture that says the Harvest is ready but the workers are few. So I volunteered and left it up to God whether He would use me or not.
Healthy Hypergamy Within Marriage
One of the common criticisms in red-pill circles is that hypergamy makes women fundamentally incapable of stable loyalty.
The argument usually goes something like this:
If a woman is always seeking the best man she can get, then marriage itself becomes unstable because eventually she will continue searching for someone better.
This interpretation misunderstands both women and marriage.
Hypergamy does not disappear after marriage.
But in a healthy marriage, it changes form.
Before marriage, hypergamy functions primarily as a selection mechanism. A woman seeks the best man she can realistically attract for long-term reproductive and familial success.
After marriage, however, the situation changes entirely.
She already chose her man.
He is no longer merely a candidate among alternatives. He is her husband. They are now one flesh, one household, one long-term future.
At that point, healthy hypergamy ceases to function primarily through replacement and instead begins functioning through investment.
If a woman wants to be with the best man she can be with, and she is married to her husband, then the natural question becomes:
How can she help him become stronger?
Healthier.
Calmer.
Wiser.
More fulfilled.
More capable.
More disciplined.
More successful.
Not because she despises who he is.
Not because she sees him as a fixer-upper project.
Not because she is perpetually dissatisfied.
But because his flourishing is now inseparable from her own.
A wise wife understands that investing in her husband is investing in her own future, her children’s future, and the stability of the family itself.
This is where many people become confused.
Encouraging a man’s growth is not the same thing as maternalizing him.
Nagging does not inspire masculine excellence.
Contempt does not strengthen a man.
Constant criticism does not create discipline.
A husband who feels perpetually evaluated, corrected, managed, or treated like a defective renovation project often becomes smaller rather than greater.
Men can feel the difference immediately.
There is a profound difference between:
“I believe in the man you can become.”
And:
“You are inadequate until I reshape you.”
One inspires.
The other corrodes.
I remember when I first started dating the woman who is now my wife.
We would sit together holding hands, sometimes saying almost nothing, and I could feel the stress draining out of me.
It is difficult to describe unless you have experienced it yourself.
The world would still be chaotic.
Work would still be difficult.
Responsibilities would still exist.
But somehow, through something as simple as physical closeness, affection, warmth, and trust, it felt as though all the pressure I carried was dissipating out into the universe through her.
And she described feeling the same thing in reverse.
That experience taught me something important.
A good woman does not merely accompany a man through life.
She regulates him by becoming a source of profound peace in his life.
A beautiful home matters more than many people realize.
A house that smells pleasant.
A calm atmosphere.
Good food.
Soft lighting.
Music.
Order.
Affection.
Warmth.
Admiration.
These things are not trivial luxuries.
They shape the nervous system.
They alter our stress physiology.
They influence whether a man feels internally fortified or internally exhausted.
A man who wants to rush home to his wife often becomes a stronger man than one who subconsciously dreads entering his own home.
And there are certain women whose very presence elevates the people around them.
Perhaps you have met them.
When you speak to them, you leave feeling better.
Bigger.
Stronger.
More motivated.
More honorable.
They know how to encourage without flattering.
How to admire without worshipping.
How to support without controlling.
Around such women, men often want to become better men voluntarily.
Not because they are being coerced.
Because something noble in them is being called upward.
When this energy is directed toward a husband within marriage, the long-term effects can be profound.
And we can observe some of those effects empirically.
Married men tend to live longer.
They generally report higher levels of life satisfaction.
They earn more money than unmarried men.
They tend to engage in fewer reckless behaviors.
Stable marriage frequently improves long-term health outcomes, emotional regulation, financial stability, and psychological resilience.
Healthy pair bonding changes human behavior.
A good marriage stabilizes people.
It gives suffering meaning.
It creates responsibility.
It regulates stress.
It motivates long-term thinking.
And in the best cases, it gives both husband and wife the experience of being deeply supported while carrying the burdens of life.
So no, healthy hypergamy inside marriage is not perpetual discontent.
It is not endless comparison.
It is not quietly searching for replacement.
Healthy hypergamy within marriage becomes the desire to help one’s husband increasingly embody his highest potential.
Through encouragement, admiration, support, affection, peace, and shared investment in a common future.
The woman is no longer searching for a better man.
She is helping her man become the best version of himself.
And in doing so, both of them rise together.
The Ephesian letter is more detailed. "Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior" (Ephesians 5:22-23).
The Greek hypotassō, rendered "submit," is a military term. It means to arrange oneself under, to take a position within an ordered structure. It does not mean to offer suggestions when convenient. It means to yield to authority within a defined hierarchy, as a soldier yields to a commanding officer whose judgment he may question privately but whose direction he follows publicly.
Did y'all know that Slovenia is the only fully Catholic country (Protestants < 1%) that celebrates Reformation Day as a national "everyone gets off work" holiday?
As a Protestant who's touched by Slovenian Catholic enthusiasm for my book, I find the history here fascinating.
It's because of a Lutheran priest named "Trubar" who translated Protestant works (including the Bible) into Slovene---the first books in that language. Trubar died in exile and Protestantism was suppressed. But the Bibles were treasured by the Catholics (unlike with Tyndale).
Many Slovenians believe that, if not for Trubar, the Slovenian identity and language would have been wiped out---absorbed into German or Italian identities. So they see him as a kind of "father of the people," even though they are Catholic and he is Protestant.
Unlike some European countries, where the Catholic Church was a tool of foreign control, in Slovenia the Church identified strongly with the common people rather than their Austrian/Italian overlords. So the Church continued Trubar's legacy of formalizing their written language.
When Slovenia gained independence in 1991, its first time in history as it's own country, they wanted to introduce a national holiday that wasn't contentious in recent politics. They decided to celebrate Trubar's contribution to the Slovenian people on Reformation Day.
@jwgrable2 I still remember how it felt moving from So. Cal. to New Ulm. Everything was so green! The oaks so tall! It made my heart sing. Felt like coming home.
>be the Dutch government
>dump 110 migrants in a small town against citizens’ will
>send out armed forces to beat
protesters (and kids) down
>invite counter terrorism expert paid through USAID on TV
>have expert brand *yours truly* as the real terror threat
>house migrants anyway
@GiffLasta What 'til you see what I try next: a 90 day journey of self improvement and increased masculinity. You won't be able to keep your hands off me!
At the 1959 Lushan Conference, Marshal Peng Dehuai quietly warned Mao that the Great Leap was killing people. Mao purged him as a rightist and doubled down on the madness.
The next eight years of Peng's life were a nightmare of torture and imprisonment. Seized by Red Guards in December 1966, he was dragged back to Beijing, beaten in over 130 interrogation sessions, and paraded through public “struggle sessions” where his ribs were fractured and his spine damaged so badly he could no longer walk by 1973.
Denied proper medical care as lung cancer spread to his brain, he endured constant pain, sleep deprivation, and degrading isolation in a military prison cell until he finally died in custody on November 29, 1974. The regime kept his passing a secret from his wife for another two years.
In communism, not even the regime’s own heroes can speak truth without being destroyed.
@GiffLasta What would the unhurtable husband do? He might mock her: "What? No tickling?" [tickles her] "No sqeezing?" [keeps tickling] "No pecks on the cheek?" [tickles harder] --Don't give her the power to turn you into a hurt little boy who had his popsicle taken away.