Erica Edelman

[Erica Edelman @edelmaned]

A thing I really don't like about slutcloud/slutcon/rmn discourse is that it tends towards a Madonna/ whore dichotomization of women.

This is obviously bad. Reasonable people on all sides can agree this is bad.

[Erica Edelman @edelmaned]

@vividvoid Social dance spaces

[Erica Edelman @edelmaned]

@freed_dfilan I've been dancing most evenings, either at events or scheduling 1 on 1s. That means the days I'm not dancing I end up being really busy catching up with tasks and not wasting time. When I do relax and watch TV that feels good and like a nice break too, since so much time is busy.

[Erica Edelman @edelmaned]

... And you better be on the beat.

[Erica Edelman @edelmaned]

What people think makes a good lead:

- Lots of moves (always more than what you have)
- Amazing technique (never ending chase for perfection)

[Erica Edelman @edelmaned]

- Intentionality in how you want your partner to feel. (Held? Cared for? Safe? Those are usually what I go for when I lead. And beautiful and calm. )
- Intentionality and presence in touch
- Presence. Being Here.

[Erica Edelman @edelmaned]

@vincent_yc_li Was just going to say this sounds like what it feels like to make the transition to good connected dance lead. (People think it's moves and technique, but after a minimum bar is met it's emotional regulation, care, etc.)

Then I saw you already likened this to a dance, so..

[Erica Edelman @edelmaned]

@AriZerner If you come to either zouk or tango with me then you can be in a social scene where all your conversations are about dance.

(But it's still in the bay area so probably everyone KNOWS about "what's going on", it's just not as interesting as "grounding".)

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@ciphergoth @benryanwriter I am a "don't like big age gaps" person, and about age 25 is when I completely stop caring. 20/36 bothers me more than 25/70.

[Erica Edelman @edelmaned]

We take the pot, one of the oldest and most functional technologies known to man, break it, and call it "progress".

Welcome to the 21st century.

[Erica Edelman @edelmaned]

Thought the stove in my new apartment was broken. Took me like 5 minutes to realize it was an induction stove. Turns out it's my pots that are broken now.

[Erica Edelman @edelmaned]

@AriZerner Dance friend, yes. Other people... Awkward, because it feels like it's breaking the established social norms?

[Erica Edelman @edelmaned]

@ManishEarth @drethelin All my friends (with jobs) are currently complaining about working too much.

(Or if they aren't complaining, when I hear how much they are working I think they should be.)

[Erica Edelman @edelmaned]

@tracewoodgrains Hi. I have 48 followers.

Thanks for the defense.

[Erica Edelman @edelmaned]

@NunoSempere "Do I want to be with this person?" makes for a healthier relationship and mindset than "Could I do better?" At least after maybe the initial dates.

[Erica Edelman @edelmaned]

@NunoSempere This "Could I do better?" mindset is bad and makes bad relationships. (And I keep seeing it amongst the crowd this week).

You leave when the relationship itself becomes untenable. Your "BATNA" is being single. But being single is fine.

[Erica Edelman @edelmaned]

@ruben_bloom In their daily life they work, watch tv, maybe hang with friends, etc. Only decide to go to museums, actually SEE what's around them, make the most of their time the 2 weeks a year they happen to be elsewhere.

[Erica Edelman @edelmaned]

@ruben_bloom Many people only live their life the way they ALWAYS should , when they are traveling.