Intelligent people struggle with addiction. Their minds need more. More depth. More to disappear into. They have obsessions nobody around them shares. Philosophy. Literature. Astronomy. Documentaries. Quantum physics. Dostoevsky. Kant. Books, music, films, ideas they've gone so deep into that ordinary conversation starts to feel like small talk. And small talk feels like suffocation. So... they drink. Work until 2 am. Doomscroll until they feel nothing. Because there is a gap between who you are and the conversations available to you. And sometimes, that gap becomes unbearable. And it's one of the loneliest places a person can live.
When you realise you cannot deliver on time, make the uncomfortable phone call. Do it before the customer starts chasing you. Explain what happened, what you can realistically complete and when they should expect it.
Switching off your phone may give you a few hours of relief, but it leaves someone else stranded. People have planned around your promise. Give them enough honesty to adjust their plans, even when you are embarrassed about yours.
Until you’re married, you may never understand why some men cheat. A man can love his wife, provide, protect and stay faithful for years, yet slowly become a stranger in his own bedroom. When intimacy turns into a favor, a negotiation, or something he has to beg for, rejection starts to hurt differently.
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Powerful rule for life: Never make a permanent decision based on a temporary feeling. Bad days pass. Anger fades. Fear settles. Just learn to pause. Take a walk. Sleep on it. Give it a minute. You can always act tomorrow. You can't always undo a rushed decision made today.
What Trevor Ombija said was beyond the pale … it’s truly sad that a young person would want to win votes by concocting falsehoods to whip up Luo hatred of Kikuyu! He even tribalized a media station that gave him a public platform. I have always said you don’t throw your first employer under the bus! In attempting to create Luo-Kikuyu animosity, Ombija sank to the Hades!
Get a haircut every 2 weeks to stay sharp, wait 5 secs before answering the phone to control the rhythm, always arrive 15 mins early, stay away from free lunches, never talk about people who aren't in the room, and when anger rises, wait 10 mins before reacting. These habits may look rigid, but they're the hidden discipline of the elite.
It was Friday night....You went out. You drank. You danced. Maybe you had sex. Maybe you simply stayed out until morning....THE SATURDAY MORNING AUDIT
Now that you are home, do the economics.
What did last night actually cost you?
Not just the bill.
How much money did you spend?
How many hours did you spend?
How much of today have you already lost recovering?
What did alcohol take from your clarity, judgment and productivity?
What did sex cost you — or potentially expose you to — beyond the few minutes of pleasure?
What did the club cost you after transport, drinks, food, company and the morning after?
And most importantly:
What could that money, time and energy have become if you had kept them?
Because every temptation is an economic test.
Every act of discipline preserves capital.
Every repeated pass compounds.
Every repeated failure compounds too.
And money is bigger than cash.
Your time is capital.
Attention is capital.
Health is capital.
Reputation is capital.
Relationships are capital.
Productivity is capital.
Credibility is capital.
Optionality is capital.
And yes — money is capital.
Sometimes saying NO is one of the highest-return investments you will ever make.
Temptation says:
Enjoy now. Pay later.
Discipline says:
Pay the price now. Enjoy the dividend later.
So before you sleep this Saturday morning, calculate Friday night.
Did you pass the test?
Because eventually:
TESTS + PASS = TESTIMONIES.
And sometimes, those testimonies become MONIES.
— ONAGI OKSECHI | THE THINKING RHINO
Life hack: Change your mental approach. Assume good things are still ahead. You are not behind. You are not too late. You are not disqualified by your past. One win can change the entire story. Keep showing up with belief. Life ain't over. Start acting like it.
The loser has more in common with the winner than with the person sitting on the sidelines.
The winner and the loser each had the courage to try. Both risked embarrassment. Both were willing to face uncertainty. Both were stubborn enough to continue.
Success is endurance in disguise. It belongs to the person who can absorb the losses without absorbing the identity of "loser." It's the courage to start — and to stick with it — that is the real separator. Results tend to find the person who stays in the game.
The sidelines are safe, but sterile. Nothing grows there.
President William Ruto, after four years in power, has made 455 promises, but only 12 of them have been fulfilled.
This means only 2.6% of his promises have been fulfilled
I turn 50 today. This is a message to my kids but I offer it to you in case any of it rings useful.
I was born in Sri Lanka in 1976 in a country that, at the time, was about to enter a decades long civil war. My father was able to get stationed at the Sri Lankan High Commission in Canada for four years in the early 80s - when some of the fighting was most severe - and which from our vantage point in Canada gave us some respite from an otherwise omnipresent conflict.
He came as a diplomat but then my father filed for refugee status after four years when his life was threatened by militants. We stayed in Canada as refugees. My dad never really landed on his feet and we grew up on welfare.
My mom stepped up. She did an incredible thing and put our family on her back and kept marching forward. Sometimes the steps were very small but she always tried to keep moving forward.
I worked at Burger King starting at 14, giving my paycheck to my mom and dad to support our family in the role that I was assigned - earn enough to pay for our bus passes because we couldn’t afford a car.
I was a loser growing up. Some friends, some good memories but mostly forgettable and lonely. I wasn’t very studious but did get my act together in my final year and got into a great university.
I immigrated to the US soon after graduating and found an opportunity. Things clicked and I have been traveling a path to find myself ever since. Only in America is this possible…
I worked hard, followed the rules, paid my taxes and stayed in California out of loyalty for the opportunities it has given me despite its dysfunction.
I found my wife here. Had my kids here. Found my tribe here.
There have been some very hard times as well - deaths, divorce, financial pain, mistakes of omission and mistakes of commission. You can’t dwell on these things - they are weights that will pull you down if you’re not careful. Learn from them. Respect them. BUT MOVE ON.
To think 50 years ago I could have ever gotten a chance to meet the people I’ve met and have had the experiences I’ve had would have been mind boggling to my parents. It’s mind boggling to me now.
We forget often and try to convince others it’s not true but America truly is the best country in the world. Everything and anything is possible here. I can testify. Be grateful to be here.
This is the only place that gives EVERYONE a chance to live a great adventure. The first 50 years have been that for me - an incredible adventure.
Notice there is nothing here about accomplishments or money. Because it doesn’t matter and it won’t matter.
You will be dust in less than 100 years from now and the decision to be remembered won’t be yours so stop sweating it. It’s not in your control.
So what is in your control?
Be kind. Have fun. Work on something meaningful to you. Find your tribe. Try to find perspective. Find an incredible partner. Have a bunch of kids. Live an adventure. Forgive your parents - they were doing the best they could even if that wasn’t what you deserved.
I will do what I can to make my next 50 years a wild ride.
You should too.
I love you and thank you. ❤️
🙏🏽🙏🏽
When a Kenyan company is looking for a CEO, the one mandatory minimum requirement is MASTERS DEGREE or higher! This has forced many Kenyans to acquire Masters Degrees even when they don’t know what Thesis they wrote as it was sub-contracted to their Professors.
And therein lies the tragedy. With all the Degrees, Kenyan companies have been unable to dig themselves out of holes.
In the US, Apple has just appointed John Ternus has its CEO. Ternus has only one Degree. Apple is valued at us$5Trillion … bigger than the entire GDP of Africa.
Of US 500 biggest companies, 188 don’t have any university degree.
We have put too much premium on Masters Degrees even instead of cognitive intelligence. We end up with charlatans as Ministers, PSes, CEOs & Presidential Advisors!
The older I get, the more I realize that anxiety comes from trying to live in two places at once. Replaying yesterday. Rehearsing tomorrow. All while trying to live right now. It's exhausting. Come back to the present. Handle the two feet right in front of you. You don't need to fix your whole life today. You need to take the next right step. Then another. That's the recipe.
One of the greatest cheat codes in life is to never get offended. Train yourself to have thick skin. Don't take things personally. Let others disagree with you. Being easily offended means you're easily manipulated. If you value peace of mind, avoid getting offended.
I asked someone what is the difference between Ruto's Regime and Uhuru's Regime.
She said:
“If I want to go to Mombasa and use the SGR, I’m grateful to Uhuru.
When I use the Nairobi Expressway and see how quickly I get to my destination without sitting in tiresome traffic, I say, ‘God bless Uhuru.’
Then I asked, “What about Ruto?”
She paused and said:
“Every month, I look at my payslip and see money being deducted for this thing called Affordable Housing. I resent Ruto. Those houses are not even affordable to the poor. They will mostly be bought by the rich. My money is being used to benefit people who are already better off.
And whenever I walk past Parliament, I get a painful déjà vu. I remember how young people’s lives were lost, and my heart skips a beat.
That is why, when the time comes, I must make the right decision.”