Don't let a 10-minute problem consume a 24-hour day. The email was uncomfortable. The train was late. The conversation went poorly. Feel it, deal with it, then allow the rest of your life to remain intact.
my therapist advised, "learn to calm your own storm instead of venting to others. it may feel therapeutic to let it all out, but you reinforce negative thoughts. it’s no one’s job but yours to pull yourself out of your problems. journal, meditate, exercise,and release." felt that
One thing adulthood teaches you quickly is that energy is limited. You cannot show up for everything, fix every problem, or respond to every message. Learning where to place your attention becomes a necessary skill.
i think it’s important to make plans for each day or week because having something to look forward to gives us a little excitement to get through the day, so when something bad happens, they won’t mean much, because we knew something good is waiting for us at the end of it.
now it’s been years since i left new york. i got a kid and two cats in the yard, the california sun and the movie stars, i watch the sky getting light as i write as i, think about those years…
One of the greatest cheat codes in life is assuming everything is happening in your favor. Lost the deal? You learned a lesson. Someone broke up with you? You dodged a bullet. When you start seeing life as happening FOR you instead of TO you your life will change.