This little girl is not in the video. She wasn't even born. But she is moved to tears watching her mother and father get married. Why?
Marriage researcher and family therapist Pat Fagan once told me:
"When a child sees their mother loving their father they feel like their mother is loving them. When they see their father loving their mother they feel like their father is loving them. It is the only time in the human experience where you can be loved indirectly. No one's even looking at you or touching you or talking to you, but you feel loved."
That is not the case with a step parent, he said. The child may tolerate the romantic expression. But they do not experience that same circuitous love. More often they feel competition or jealousy.
If every child could order their own world, this is what they would say:
"I want my mom and dad to love me and I want my mom and dad to love each other."
Sometimes that's not possible. Woe to a culture that intentionally denies that to children in the name of adult freedom.
@ravrjms@reddit_lies Easy forgiveness is a problem I have with Christianity. There are many ppl in this world (like this wife) who will totally steamroll you if they see the opportunity, and a man needs some sternness in order to survive. Especially since society is no longer enforcing expectations.
@Rich_Cooper It seems like most guys grow up in a different world from women these days. The husband in this story was probably crunching math problems and reading the Bible on those nights.
@Allofexistence@Owls328622@SonderPatriot I don't know what the IQ data says, but mulatto men have been competitive in Western elite circles since at least the 19th century.
Sipping my coffee βοΈ and thinking about these marvellous Minoan cups!
They look so modern itβs incredible to think they were made by Bronze Age potters some 3,800 years ago!
Heraklion Archaeological Museum, Crete. π· by me
#Archaeology
@bears_43@AndrewWittstadt Lots of spats too. There is a famous Chris Rock standup performance from the '90s - "Never Scared" I think. He talked about listening to a gf talk about her workday and the guy having to respond with stock phrases: "No way!" "You don't say!" "I told you that bitch was crazy!"
@PAHoyeck Not a philosopher, but I noticed while reading the mortality chapter of Lucretius' "On the Nature of Things" that the Epicureans of the 1st c. BC were already aware of the interaction problem. Nothing new under the sun I suppose.