Avid supporter of women and their well being. Passionate about equity not equality and happy to engage with all, irrespective of difference in opinion. Respect.
@KBarigye I think we need to burst the myths first, as a coffee drinker I’m always getting unsolicited advice abt how coffee is bad 4 women etc who started that? Also let’s amplify the benefits, & dig deep abt who stood to benefit from the start if coffee stayed unconsumed locally.
@ainbyoo Start by first learning all about the Ministry you are going to support, do a desk study, internal and external listening tour, then after; equipped with data from those two events it will be clear where you should start!
I need to talk about what happened at work yesterday because I have not recovered.
New guy started two weeks ago. He’s 24.
I was assigned to “show him the ropes,” and honestly, I went in with low expectations because the last three new hires couldn’t figure out the printer.
Then he showed up on day one with a NOTEBOOK.
Physical paper.
He wrote down everything I said like it was scripture. Didn’t touch his phone once. When I explained a process, he waited until I was completely finished before asking questions.
Novel concept, apparently.
At lunch, he asked if anyone wanted anything before he headed out. Not performatively. He just remembered that someone had mentioned three days earlier that the coffee machine was broken.
He came back with coffee for the whole team.
I was already starting to think this guy was different.
Then the meeting happened.
Someone took credit for an idea I had come up with the previous week.
I was about to speak up when the new guy suddenly said something that made the entire room go quiet...
"I know this will shock many people because very few people know what has been happening in my personal life.
I separated from my wife, Caroline Muthoni Kidake, in 2024. For more than a year, I have not seen her. I have kept this private, not because I was ashamed, but because some things in life are too personal to turn into public conversations.
For the first time, I am willing to say this openly: I know I was the problem.
Caroline and I have been together for 25 years. We have suffered together, built businesses together, made money together, travelled to different countries together and, above everything else, God blessed us with three beautiful children, Jakes, Ron-Liester and Shirlyne.
Looking back, I believe joining politics in 2021 was one of the biggest mistakes I made in my life, not because leadership is wrong, but because I allowed politics to take too much of me. I gave politics the time, energy and attention that should have gone to my family. Along the way, I made mistakes, including mistakes involving other women, and those mistakes contributed to where we are today.
I take responsibility for that.
Caroline is not just my wife. She has been my partner, adviser, business strategist, confidant and the woman who helped turn our house into a home.
She has one of the sharpest business minds I have ever encountered. She understands money, people, risk, timing and business decisions in a way that has always impressed me. There are many decisions I made in business after discussing them with her, and many things I achieved were made easier because I had a woman with both wisdom and business intelligence beside me.
When we were together, I could go home for lunch. I could call her more than ten times in a day just to ask her opinion or tell her what I was dealing with. When something happened in business, she was one of the first people I wanted to talk to.
And every time I bought a new asset or achieved something significant, the celebration was different. We celebrated together. Those moments motivated me more than money ever did.
I have always worked hard and, when I was able, I made sure she never had to worry about paying the bills in our home. But life changes. When my resources became strained, Caroline stepped in and continued taking care of our children. Today, we all participate in their lives because ultimately, they are our greatest responsibility.
What has touched me most is how maturely she has handled our separation.
She has protected our private life. She has never exposed our differences to the world. Even when we were no longer living together, if she was in a difficult situation, she could still call me, and I would be there.
Recently, when I was sick, she called doctors, followed up and made sure I was okay.
That tells you something about the kind of woman she is.
There is a certain space a wife creates in a man’s life that money cannot replace. Caroline left a space in my life that I have come to understand more deeply with time. Money can buy houses, cars and businesses, but it cannot buy companionship, loyalty, history, friendship or the feeling of having someone who knows you completely.
And the truth is, I have never been the perfect husband. Caroline forgave me more times than I deserved. She fought for our marriage more times than I realised at the time. She wanted our marriage to work, and I disappointed her repeatedly.
Today, I understand that forgiveness was not weakness. It was love.
I also understand that saying “I love my family” means very little if your actions do not protect that family.
My work now is not to convince the world of anything. My work is to fix what I can, take responsibility for what I broke, become a better man and, if God allows it, find a way to bring my family together again.
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Dear God, please help the family reunite