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[Shadows of Control @shadows_control]

My husband (now ex) never directly dictated my decisions, but I always ended up doing exactly what he wanted. This is how coercive control works.

During Covid lockdown, he said he wanted a summer holiday abroad. Despite travel being banned, he came up with a plan involving a medical appointment to exploit a loophole.

I didn’t want to go. I was afraid of all the things that could go wrong, all the possible consequences for me and others. So, I said no.

Abusers don’t accept the word No.

“You just want to live in fear, don’t you?” he spat out. “You want to be a sheep like everyone else, following the rules like a good little girl.”

He began to harass me relentlessly, bombarding me with insults, threats, and sending me articles about resisting ‘government dictatorship.’

He positioned himself as the victim, claiming he was getting depressed and that he would “lose it” if he had to stay in our country over the summer.

He used his physical health as leverage, insisting he needed a warmer climate due to recurring infections. “If you don’t agree, you are absolutely selfish and don’t care about my health at all,” he said, guilt-tripping me.

Then he involved our 5-year-old son.

“How would you like to go on an amazing holiday to enjoy the sun and beaches?” he asked him.

“Just you and me. Mummy will stay here because she’s too scared to go.” He glanced at me with a smirk.

He tormented me every day for months until I couldn’t take it anymore. So, I relented.

And this is the insidious nature of coercive control. They grind you down until you literally have no fight left.

You surrender to their demands and choose the path of least resistance because you have learned the price of defiance.

In the end, they strip away all your power, leaving you feeling trapped in a life entirely dictated by their needs, wishes, and demands.

#CoerciveControl #DomesticAbuse

[Natalie Page @NataliePage]

🚨ACTION AGAINST CHILD REMOVAL CAMPAIGN

In November 2025, Natalie Page (Survivor Family Network), and Dr Charlotte Proudman (Right2Equality) launched the Action Against Child Removal Campaign in Parliament. At this event, we published findings from our small-scale survey, which revealed:

🚩217 mothers had 342 children removed from their care.
🚩96.8% of these mothers had raised allegations of abuse during proceedings.
🚩81% were accused of failing to facilitate the child’s relationship with the father.
🚩In 45.6% of cases, no fact‑finding hearing was held on the abuse allegations.

Read more here 👇

https://t.co/IHY7nbRUTR

[Surviving @Survivingtoday1]

@Sanchia7 And now imagine this. Mothers and child voices silenced for years by ‘the process’. The family court is, and has been, a major part of ‘the process’. Family Court is unfit for purpose, family court is a perpetrator of harm.

[isthisreallyfamilyjustice @isthisreallyfj]

@Sanchia7 @Sanchia7 the cases that will be turned over after this require yours and your colleagues attention. This judgment opens up the what journalists have wanted for years

[1click boedicea @Msbalance]

@Sanchia7 I havent seen or heard from my daughter for nearly 7 yrs after her dad cut all contact between us on false allegations of child assault. Crt refused a fact finding 5 times on his history of DA. Both me & my daughter r still living in his regime of control. Due diligence described

[Sanchia Berg @Sanchia7]

Important Judgment in a Family Case - from the most senior judge. https://t.co/sHJF8ELe7g He says it's "about the failure of the whole process... undertaken in a manner which is now to be seen as fundamentally unsound" .

[Support not Separation @NotSeparation]

This judgement is a big victory @GoodmanRay1 for mums & children separated by so-called "experts" in so-called "parental alienation". Long overdue but opens the way to over-turn sexist judgements by judges, CAFCASS, social workers, etc. Melanie Gill et al out #familycourt!

[Nadski @nadski65]

This is not protecting children. This is protecting power.

A teacher racially abused and strangled his adopted sons. His partner — a family court judge — failed to protect them. And yet, they both get anonymity.

Why?

Children were abused. A judge who made decisions over other families failed in their own. A teacher with access to other people's children was violent and racist.

🔴 Who protects the children wrongly taken by this judge?
🔴 Who protects the children taught by this teacher?
🔴 Who protects the truth when perpetrators hide behind the law?

Even in the Sarah Sharif case, judges were initially granted protection — but that changed when public interest and pressure made it impossible to ignore.

This is not safeguarding. This is silencing.
We don’t protect children by hiding abusers.
We protect them by exposing those who harm — no matter their job title.

Thank you @hansummers and @louisetickle for fighting to bring this to light. 🙏

#FamilyJustice #ProtectChildrenNotPerpetrators #TransparencyNow @SheraFamily @DrProudman @MoJGovUK @DrJessTaylor @LDNVictimsComm #JusticeforSara

[Nadski @nadski65]

“She thought she escaped me. I’m still here.”
Cheers, Family Court".
This isn’t fiction. It’s what too many mothers face after reporting DV, coercive control or CSA. A system that claims to protect children — but ends up punishing mothers. 🧵
2/
At Contact Centres, mothers are monitored not to say anything “negative” about the father.
But it doesn’t stop there.
They’re now being accused of leading language or emotional influence — just for asking:
“Did you have a nice time today?”
3/
Schools often block mothers with full parental responsibility from:
– Parents' evenings (unless supervised)
– Getting school reports directly
– Even correcting a child’s legal name
And when challenged? They’re ignored. Complicit in silencing.
4/
Meanwhile, fathers manipulate the system — using charm, money or power to win over:
– Solicitors
– Social workers
– Cafcass
– Contact Centres
– And even the experts.
5/
These “experts” send mothers from one private, unregulated therapy to another.
Not to help.
But to push them to change their view of their abuser.
Then they say:
“You don’t feel sorry for him — you’re the problem.”
6/
Cafcass?
Reports full of bias and lies, ignoring evidence.
Assessments based on minutes of contact.
No real knowledge of the family — yet recommendations that shape lives.
7/
And the family court?
It eats it all up.
Refuse to give up? You get a barring order.
Want unsupervised contact after 6 years? Too bad — more therapy.
New evidence? Nope — case closed. Wait, I have an idea — let’s send outdated reports about the mother everywhere and pretend it's current. That should help.

This isn’t justice.
This is abuse with legal backing.

And it’s happening daily — in secret courts, where mothers are gagged and children are unseen.
#FamilyCour #JusticeForMothers #ChildProtection
#EndBarringOrders #CafcassReform @MoJGovUK @DrJessTaylor @jessphillips @MyCafcass @NACCCofficial #DVsurvivors #CoerciveControl @SheraFamily @DrProudman @hansummers @louisetickle #ExposeTheSystem

[Victims’ Commissioner for London @LDNVictimsComm]

Urgent questions must be asked as to why this family court judge cannot be named - a judge found to have seriously abused their adopted children. Protecting a judge when children have been harmed will damage public trust and confidence. https://t.co/jkC1tv7vAI

[Amanda Against Abuse @AmandaAgainstDA]

Once Cafcass rip you to shreds with their defamation, even if the accusation is closed or found to be baseless, it still lingers. It clings to your name. It poisons how other professionals see you. It haunts every step you take as a victim trying to move forward.

Take FII. Cafcass made a referral on me. It didn’t progress. It was deemed not relevant to me. And yet it’s still whispered behind closed doors. The professionals know it’s not valid, but they still reference it. The abuser clings to it like a trophy, using it to undermine and control me, years later.

Now I’m facing a medical matter with my child. I am damned if I seek help, because the ghost of FII resurfaces. And I am damned if I don’t, because the father refuses to advocate for them.

The result? My child suffers. They may or may not receive proper treatment depending on which parent takes them. And long term and continue treatment will not happen.

All because Cafcass and the father colluded years ago to weaponise an accusation they now refuse to walk back. It didn’t have to be this way. But this is what happens when harm goes unchecked.

[Dr Adrienne Barnett @BarnettAdrienne]

Please read this thread by @MelanieBridgen It illuminates how the family court is being weaponised by abusive men to serve their own interests at the expense of children and the mothers who are trying to protect them. This is an appalling subversion of justice in which judiciary and professionals are implicated, often unknowingly but on occasions knowingly. @MoJGovUK @ShabanaMahmood please listen to lawyers like @MelanieBridgen and the organisations like @Right2Equality and @rightsofwomen who can see what’s happening in the family justice system and are trying to protect child and adult victims of abuse and create a safer system that puts children’s welfare at its heart

[Right to Equality @Right2Equality]

📣 “This case cannot move forward any time soon.”

A chilling phrase in a case where a father faces serious allegations—stalking, sexual assault, coercive control, and assault of his own child—yet the mother is still threatened with contempt for protecting her sons.

[SHERA Research Group: Health Law Rights Support © @SheraFamily]

This is the modus operandi of all abusers - coercive controllers, workplace bullies, abusive 'partners' and paedophiles: 'Abusers show up as charlatans, a wolf in sheep's clothing and victims fall in line...victims form a trauma bond...abusers use therapy against their victim'.

[Laila Mickelwait @LailaMickelwait]

“For 8 years, I was raped and beaten and video taped by hundreds of men, women and even married couples. I never thought I would live to be 18…” Below is the account of a child victim of P*rnhub in her own words…

“I am now 20 years old, and I am a sex and p*rn trafficking survivor. At the age of 9, my biological mother sold me to johns (people who buy sex) in exchange for drugs and for money. This happened until I was rescued at the age of 17 and placed into a safe house, where I was able to escape my bio mom and the people she worked with. For 8 years, I was raped and beaten and video taped by hundreds of men, women and even married couples. I never thought I would live to be 18 years old. I was hospitalized dozens of times, and one time I was forced to drink ammonia until I passed out and was raped for hours after that even though my mouth and throat were burning so bad. I have seen many other children raped in front of me even a 3 year old boy being raped by a man that was in his 40s. I was forced to have sex with other children, especially young girls. I still have nightmares and extreme PTSD from this. I am thankful that I have a family now who helps me through my flashbacks and my panics. But it’s not fair that my life is so hard now because I was forced into a life of sex and p*rnography as a child. I have had to get police involved on multiple occasions to try and get Redtube & P*rnhub [owned by MindGeek/Aylo] to remove videos of me being raped AS A MINOR. I don’t understand why it’s so difficult. Please, stop allowing people to make money off of the torture and coercion of children. It’s not fair.”

Take note that she said she couldn’t get her videos down unless she got police involved. P*rnhub had set up a system where victims were thwarted from being able to take down their abuse, all the while P*rnhub heavily monetized the abuse with ads and premium subscriptions to enrich themselves.

We now have clear evidence—from internal emails, messages uncovered through legal discovery, and sworn depositions—that P*rnhub’s owners and executives knowingly concealed child rape videos from law enforcement for more than 13 years. They also maintained policies that allowed illegal content to be repeatedly uploaded.

According to emails from the CEO and current executives, the company’s policy was to ignore even violent rape videos unless they were flagged more than 15 times. They assigned just one person to review flagged videos five days a week, despite having a backlog of 706,000 flagged videos.

Court documents recently revealed that videos showing the rape of prepubescent children—flagged 13 or 14 times—remained on the site for years, generating hundreds of thousands to millions of monetized views. One internal report revealed that child sexual abuse videos hidden from authorities by P*rnhub had received over 684 million views. Executives made their position clear to staff: they “didn’t want the rules [against criminal content] to be enforced.”

They must be held fully accountable. Shut it down, pay restitution to all victims, put the executives in prison, and implement policy to ensure it doesn’t happen again.

[Victims’ Commissioner for London @LDNVictimsComm]

Mothers are dissuaded from sharing disclosures of child sexual abuse (CSA) because there is a rise in cases where CSA allegations are reframed as parental alienation and the protective parent is at risk of losing their child. Why are the family courts struggling to identify CSA?

[ACP-UK @UK_ACP]

After almost eight years at the helm and following his final Board meeting, Professor Mike Wang stepped down as Chair of ACP-UK on Friday evening.

Mike was instrumental in setting up ACP-UK, and from its inaugural meeting in a York hotel room with around 30 attendees..

[Rachel Horman-Brown KC (Hon) @rachelhorman]

The government seriously needs to look at how domestic abuse offences are charged by the CPS and also at increasing sentencing for them https://t.co/nJYfXLFnve

[Dr. Jessica Taylor @DrJessTaylor]

Well that’s horrifying.