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[thunderbyte⚡️ @thunderbyte]

They should’ve used mini/button idly instead of normal idly. Could’ve told that the hero in “The curious case of Benjamin Button” ate this dish.

[Soul Wanderer🎆 @dumbinfidel]

Usually indha maari scam lam coimbatore la dhana start aagum Ivan enna Chennai la irundhu start panraan

[thunderbyte⚡️ @thunderbyte]

Sapta saagara daache ello Side C

[Shiv Aroor @ShivAroor]

And so it begins.

The Pune Porsche crash accused, including the underage son, have ALL named the Agarwal family driver. He is being questioned today.

[Jason Fried @jasonfried]

Coding in movies vs. real life.

[thunderbyte⚡️ @thunderbyte]

Beautifully written -

People lose patience with you after a year, and get openly irritated after two.
.
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And then, swiftly, follows the guilt.
The guilt of failing the dead in the worst way one can—by failing to remember them.

[(I'm done)ⁿ @Shayonnita15]

Ma would have been 56 today. 7th May, a birthday etched into my mind from 25 years of wishing her happy birthday. Three years have passed, and while neither of us have aged in this photo, my grief has.

Unlike in its infancy, my grief is quieter now. More at peace, less given to well-ups in the middle of the day—Truly I rarely even cry now! My humour has healed as well—no more dark jokes, no more bringing up "the dead mother" for comedic awkwardness.

I barely react to everyone mentioning their mothers all the time as well, these days. And can you believe it, the last time I went on a date, I didn't even mention her absence for the whole duration! Ha!

I haven't opened her WhatsApp chat in months, and I've studiously avoided looking at photos of us. Interestingly, nearly all those that I shared her death with are no longer in my life. Which makes it easier to not think, to... forget.

*

How long do you mourn your dead, is a question I have often asked myself.

People lose patience with you after a year, and get openly irritated after two. Play act the "okay routine" well enough, and suddenly everyone forgets that grief ever even lived inside you. And so you drink from the soma of forgetting. You push them to the edge of your mind, into the cracks of your consciousness; you file them under "memories and rememberances" instead of "today's thoughts and occurences".

Slowly you think of them only occassionally. Once a day, once a week, only when prompted by a stimuli or a thing.

And then, swiftly, follows the guilt.

The guilt of failing the dead in the worst way one can—by failing to remember them. The guilt of having allowed yourself to forget, of having lost a piece of their last day, or last month, or forgotten exactly what their voice sounded like. The guilt of "healing" as if they were something awful to be cured from. The guilt of realising that if you don't remember her and recollect her, no one will.

The guilt of being a daughter who has forgot to be one every day. The guilt of being mortal, while they no longer are.

*

Grief doesn't shrink, you grow around it—something that I read years ago to which I disagree. Grief stays as is. You just get so very good at distracting yourself. :) And learn to forgive life, them, cancer, love, and sometimes yourself as well.

Happy Birthday, Memo. Here is another year, another depressing post. But then, you were the happy one among us, weren't you? ♥️

Thank you for existing when you did.

[thunderbyte⚡️ @thunderbyte]

6 months imprisonment and 5k fine are not enough. Such negligent dog owners should face bigger punishments for the trauma the kids and parents undergo.

[Ravi Handa @ravihanda]

Genuine question - What does the law say about cases of dog attacks like these?

Does the dog get taken away from owners?

How much are the owners fined, if anything?

Or there aren’t any laws for this and it is driven by rules of the housing society?

[Tim Urban @waitbutwhy]

In 2017, I did something dumb. There was a total solar eclipse passing through the US, but I was in NY, far from the path. Was I really gonna get on a plane to see a cool thing for two minutes? Nah. I had shit to do.

The day came. I put my stupid glasses on and saw the sun become a little less big and then back to being full size again. It was mildly interesting.

Then the reports started coming in from the people who had seen it from the totality zone. People were like "it was an indescribably profound, perspective-shifting, life-altering experience." They were like "I'm a different person now, someone who can only be understood by other people who saw the total solar eclipse." It was massively fomo-y and upsetting.

Solar eclipses happen when the moon passes directly through the invisible line connecting the sun and Earth, something that doesn't happen very often because space is big and the invisible line is skinny. Earthlings are very lucky, eclipse-wise. Most planets don't have a big enough moon to create a total solar eclipse. Not only is our moon big enough, it's about exactly the size of the sun in our night sky because, by sheer coincidence, the sun is about 400 times farther from us than the moon and also about 400 times bigger than the moon in diameter—making our eclipses especially breathtaking.

There are about 70 total solar eclipses every century, each resulting in a thin path of total sun blockage. For most of history, there was no way to know when or where they would happen. Only the very lucky few who happened to be in the right place, at the right time, with the right weather, got to experience a total solar eclipse. Today you can ensure that you see one—and I had passed up the opportunity. I would not make the mistake again.

I went online and learned that there would be another total solar eclipse passing through the US in 2024, and then that would be it until 2045. It went on my calendar that day.

As fortune would have it, the 2024 eclipse's path of magical totality would be passing right over my new hometown of Austin, Texas. It was perfect.

Then came the weather reports. Austin was going to be cloudy on eclipse day.

Nope. Not okay. It wasn't an option to not see this eclipse. My friend @Liv_Boeree was equally psychotic about this, so we decided on Sunday night that Monday morning we'd get on a flight to somewhere in the eclipse's path that was forecast to have clear skies. We settled on Arkansas.

Early the next morning we flew to Little Rock, got in a car, and drove northwest to get to the dead center of the totality path, where the total eclipse would last for more than three minutes. We ended up in a big open rural field that may or may not have been part of someone's farm. It was us and some cows. The sky was perfectly clear.

30 minutes until totality. I looked through my glasses at a crescent sun. It seemed a little dimmer out than usual, but only a little.

20 minutes. Thinner crescent, a tad dim, maybe a tad cooler than it was before?

10 minutes. Razor thin crescent now, definitely weird lighting. Because all of the light is coming from one small area, shadows are very sharp. You can see the shadow of individual hairs on your head.

1 minute. It's very dim, like early evening, but still feels like daytime generally. Waves of light and dark ripple across the ground, like the way light moves at the bottom of a swimming pool.

5 seconds. Diamond ring! I take off my glasses and the diamond ring looks strikingly beautiful and strange (google "eclipse diamond ring" to see what I'm talking about).

4 seconds to 1 second. The Earth's dimmer switch suddenly goes downnnnn as dim daylight drops into night. Totality.

Imagine a world where there was always cloud cover, and one day every few years, in certain places, the sky cleared at night, and you could see stars for the first time in your life. It would be a totally surreal experience, something that reminded you that you don't live in a big world but on the edge of a tiny rock in vast outer space. It would show you the truth about reality.

We see stars all the time, so we're well-acquainted with our reality living in outer space (even if it's easy to forget during the day). But when I looked up at the sky during the total eclipse, it was the first time I had experienced another, totally different way to see with my eyes that I lived in outer space. I saw one sphere positioned in front of another sphere, with two other spheres—Venus and Jupiter—floating nearby. More than ever before, it felt obvious that I was standing on the edge of a fifth sphere. For the first time in my life, I was looking at the Solar System.

I looked around. There was a dim 360° sunset along the entire horizon—another first. It was dark. At 2pm. By a minute in, there was a chorus of chirping crickets that hadn't been there before. Birds were flying around overhead that hadn't been there before. The cows continued being cows but I assume they were super confused.

I looked back up at the Solar System and noticed a little imperfection on the edge of the black moon circle, which I realized must be a solar flare. A solar flare I could see with my naked eye.

Only half of my brain was focused on the eclipse because the other half was frantically trying to figure out how to best use the precious three minutes. I told myself I wouldn't spend more than 30 seconds of the three minutes doing stuff with my camera, but I was not gonna not take pics. I got things all focused and snapped this gem:
Just kidding that's @AJamesMcCarthy's photo. But mine was pretty good too.
Okay fine that one was taken by @NASA. Here's mine.
Whatever. Anyway, eventually it ended. The glorious diamond ring reappeared, followed by me being blinded before remembering to not look at the sun anymore. Earth's dimmer switch swooped back up, as night turned to day in a few surreal seconds. It was over.

Thoughts were processed. Emotions were felt.
It was very very VERY worth the last second trip. For any of you who pulled a 2017 Tim and decided not to see this one, I hope I've sufficiently fomo'd you into making sure you see this for yourself, sometime soon, in some part of the world. 🌻

[Karthik 🇮🇳 @beastoftraal]

If there's only one video that you have time for today, make it this one.

I refer to the '90:10' rule in my corporate workshops on personal branding. There are 2 aspects to this 90:10 rule:

1. 90% of your effort towards building your personal brand happens in loneliness. This is you reading, learning, observing, questioning, assimilating information around areas of your interest (defined as your 'personal brand' tenets). Only 10% happens in front of the people. This is you 'performing' your knowledge and way of thinking in front of an audience of strangers. Most people assume that the 10% is everything, while completely forgetting the 90% effort required.

2. 90% of your readers/audience do not leave any form of digitally identifiable reaction after consuming what you have shared. Only 10% do. But we give excessive importance to the visible few reactions (Likes, Shares, Comments, etc.) and completely forget the 90%.

Here is noted business consultant Myron Golden explaining the same concept using a beautiful analogy of a tree (in David Shands' Social Proof podcast).

#personalbrand #personalbranding #effort #growth

[Emily Andersen @AftonEmily]

In one of the craziest stories I've ever covered: a former University of Iowa hospital employee had been using another man's identity for most of his life. The other man was arrested for identity fraud and committed to a mental hospital a few years ago

https://t.co/MBYMZjiSiM

[Psychodoctor @Psychodoctor06]

One session therapy:

A 10th std student was brought to me by his parents for motivating him to excel. He was a good student but was lacking in discipline.

While conversing with him, I got an idea. Our conversation happened as follows:

Me: If together we start a single screen movie theatre as a
business, how many shows should we screen in a day? Will screening of one movie show a day work?
He: No.

Me: Why?
He: One show will not give us enough profit.

Me: What about 2 shows a day?
He: Not enough profit.

Me: How many shows should we screen daily for good profit?
He: Maybe 4 or 5. Maximum possible.

Me: Ab batao, tumhare theatre
mein roj padhai ke kitne shows lagte hai?

(He was speechless. Suddenly he understood where I was leading to.)

He: Sir, roj show nahi lagta.
Me: To kab lagte hai?
He: mood aaye to lagte hai.
Me: Iska matlab tumhara theatre loss mein chal raha hai.
He: Ha, Sir.

Then I told him to follow this slogan.

1 show on work day
3 shows on holiday

Also told him that the shows should not be like 78 min English films. Each show should be long like 'Lagaan' or 'Titanic'.

I also counselled him about his other issues.

He came to me after 6 or 7 years with a box of sweets. He had become a CA in his first attempt.

Since becoming a CA in first attempt is not easy, I was curious to know how much he had studied.

I asked him about how much did he study.

He smiled and answered me in my own language after so many years.

He said, " Sir, mai roj 3 shows karta tha."

To all the parents here on X,

"tumhare bachho ke theatre mein roj study ke kitne shows lagte hai?"

#therapy

P.S: One session therapy does not work for all.
Simple ideas presented in a right manner at the right time can create a change in perception in some, not all.
Each person is different. Everyone needs different approach.

Please follow @Psychodoctor06
to learn about the unique insights and experiences of a psychiatrist.

[thunderbyte⚡️ @thunderbyte]

@kbalakumar “Handing Rajiv Gandhi peace prize to a member of the LTTE” - nice analogy.

[kbalakumar @OGkbalakumar]

MS' grandson - Radha Vishwanathan's son - wades into TMK and says the family was deeply hurt and 'utterly dismayed' by his tasteless article on the great singer. The family also respects the artists who are returning the Sangita Kalanidhi award.

https://t.co/np0erDsFnG

[thunderbyte⚡️ @thunderbyte]

Found my great grandfather’s handwriting in a diary today. Can’t stop admiring his handwriting. Notice the னூ, னை, ளை, and றொ in old style.

[thunderbyte⚡️ @thunderbyte]

@psankar There’s a lot of cognitive dissonance because hours and hours of time spent listening to huberman in traffic seems pointless.

[Salomé Sibonex @SalomeSibonex]

The NYMag Huberman story is a sign of the feminization of our culture and thus the inevitable rise of "toxic feminine" traits, of which reputation-targeting attacks are one.

Some American women swear they're deeply oppressed, but the truth is women have unprecedented power today. Whether they use it constructively is another story.

But as was the case in a masculinized culture where the negative traits of immature men are more of a problem, a feminized culture will suffer the negative traits of immature women.

Reputational attacks, journalism is tabloid news, competency is judged by whether you're likable, exes and hearsay are reliable sources, any influence on the "innocent" public is suspicious, etc.

What kind of culture would have mainstream "news" where angry exes gossip about a successful man as a subtle means of undermining his career?

A culture where immature women dominate, and that's exactly the culture at publications like NYMag.

[thunderbyte⚡️ @thunderbyte]

The everlasting dilemma - Should you separate the art from the artist? Should you separate the podcasts from the podcaster? #Huberman

[jss @jsensarma]

Met two old friends from college batch. One runs a ~$40M ARR VC-funded business with 100s of employees worldwide. 2nd experienced CTO.

Asked: Do you know how money is created?

They blanked out. Had no idea. Started mumbling.

imo - single most important ignorance in world. 🧵

[EDDIE CHENG @ecomEddie]

The root of procrastination isn’t laziness, it’s fear.

If you struggle with procrastination, read this:

[thunderbyte⚡️ @thunderbyte]

Bookmarked this anamorphic optical illusion yesterday to draw if I get bored in a meeting. :)

[The Figen @TheFigen_]

How to draw anamorphic optical illusion step by step …

[thunderbyte⚡️ @thunderbyte]

I will never understand why privileged, upper middle class and rich women celebrate women’s day with roses, chocolates, perfumes and fashion parade. 😡

[Paul Graham @paulg]

When people criticize an action on the grounds of the "optics," they're almost always full of shit. All they're really saying is "What you did looks bad." But if they phrased it that way, they'd have to answer the question "Was it actually bad, or not?"