It doesn’t make sense to continue wanting something if you’re not willing to do what it takes to get it.
If you don’t want to live the lifestyle, then release yourself from the desire. To crave the result but not the process, is to guarantee disappointment.
~ James Clear
If you can understand this and why it’s extremely unkind on the lady’s part, you should also be able to understand why the “cooking” discourse sends a lot of women into a rage here.
Sometimes it’s not the cooking itself. It’s the situation surrounding it. It’s about people making it your duty. It’s about not having a say in whether you want to cook or not. It’s about cooking for someone who doesn’t appreciate you. It’s about being expected to serve regardless of the state you are in.
It’s the entitlement
I want writers to know that solid-paying gigs are still very much out there. I mean many companies happily pay $500–$1,000 (and sometimes more) per project. These are clients who respect your rates and won’t try to lowball or haggle you down. Your job is to stop chasing every opportunity and start targeting those companies specifically
Girl to girl: study the patterns in your family. Look at what distracted, delayed, or derailed the women before you, then make intentional decisions to break those cycles.
refuse to be a victim of generational curses ❤️
Kaygılı biriysen sana verebileceğim en basit tavsiye şu: Her şeyi biraz daha hafife almayı öğren. Görüşmeye gidiyorsan kendini kanıtlamak için değil, deneyim kazanmak için git. Bir işe başlıyorsan sonucu düşünerek değil, keyif alarak başla. İnsanlarla tanışıyorsan hayatının kaderini belirleyecek kişiler gibi görme. Çünkü kaygı, olaylara yüklediğimiz aşırı önemden beslenir. Her şeyi ya kazanacağım ya kaybedeceğim noktasına taşıdığında zihnin yorulur. Hayatın her anını bir sınav gibi yaşama. Bazen sadece denemek, öğrenmek ve yolculuğun tadını çıkarmak yeterlidir. Rahat olan insanlar her zaman daha net düşünür ve daha doğru karar verir.
people can FEEL when you're desperate - it's an energy that pushes them away
how to date without desperation:
> stop treating every date like it could be "the one" - just have FUN meeting someone new
> have a full life outside of dating - hobbies, friends, goals - it makes you more attractive AND happier
> don't over-text or over-plan - match their energy and let things breathe
> if they're not communicating consistently (without explaining why), they're not that interested - move on! (it's all good, it happens)
> the right person won't make you feel anxious all the time. EASE is a green flag
> you're focusing all your energy on what they think of you. have you considered asking yourself what do *I* think of them?
> abundance mindset baby!!! there is infinite connection out there for you. no need to obsess. the right one is right around the corner
> stop auditioning for them. you don't need to perform. you want someone who likes you for YOU (not someone you're *trying* to be)
> when it's right, it feels EASY - not like you're constantly trying to prove yourself
desperation comes from scarcity mindset
the cure is building a life you LOVE with or without a partner
that energy will attract abundance
you got this!!!
HOW TO PRAY USING SCRIPTURES
Praying using scriptures is the perfect way to know you are praying the will of God. When you don't know how to pray, open the Bible and use the scriptures. Let your prayer requests be accompanied with scriptures. You can write them down before you enter the place of prayer and use them.
Many believers struggle in prayer because they think prayer is about finding the right words. But prayer is not about impressive words; it is about agreement with God's Word. The Bible says in Isaiah 55:11 that God's Word will not return to Him void. When you pray scriptures, you are reminding yourself of God's promises and standing on what He has already said concerning your life.
Praying scriptures strengthens your faith because faith comes by hearing and hearing by the Word of God (Romans 10:17). Instead of praying based on your feelings, fears, or circumstances, you begin to pray based on God's truth. Circumstances may change, but God's Word remains forever.
For example, if you need wisdom, don't simply say, "Lord, give me wisdom." Take the scripture and pray it:
"Father, Your Word says in James 1:5 that if anyone lacks wisdom, let him ask of God who gives generously without finding fault. Lord, I ask for wisdom concerning this situation. Guide my decisions and direct my steps in Jesus' name."
If you are praying for provision, use Philippians 4:19:
"Father, Your Word says that You shall supply all my needs according to Your riches in glory by Christ Jesus. I stand upon this promise today. I declare that every need in my life shall be met according to Your Word."
If you are battling fear, use Isaiah 41:10:
"Lord, You said I should not fear because You are with me. You said You will strengthen me, help me, and uphold me with Your righteous right hand. Today I reject fear and embrace Your peace."
If you need healing, pray with Isaiah 53:5:
"Father, Your Word says that by His stripes we are healed. I receive healing over my body. Let every sickness, pain, and affliction leave in the name of Jesus."
If you desire protection, use Psalm 91:
"Lord, Your Word says that He who dwells in the secret place of the Most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty. Protect me and my family from every evil attack, danger, and accident."
If you are trusting God for direction, pray Proverbs 3:5-6:
"Father, I choose to trust in You with all my heart and not lean on my own understanding. As I acknowledge You in all my ways, direct my paths according to Your promise."
If you need strength during difficult times, pray Isaiah 40:31:
"Lord, Your Word says those who wait upon You shall renew their strength. Renew my strength today. Help me to run and not grow weary, to walk and not faint."
Even when praying for your children, marriage, ministry, business, or future, find scriptures that relate to those areas and turn them into prayer points. The more you pray God's Word, the more confidence you have in prayer because you know you are praying according to His will.
A practical way to do this is to keep a prayer journal. Divide it into categories such as healing, protection, finances, family, spiritual growth, favor, and breakthrough. Under each category, write relevant scriptures. Whenever you pray, read the scripture first and then turn it into a personal prayer.
Jesus Himself used scripture. The apostles used scripture. The early church stood upon scripture. God's Word is the foundation of effective prayer.
The next time you enter your prayer closet and don't know what to say, don't be discouraged. Open your Bible. Read a promise. Speak it back to God. Pray His Word. Declare His Word. Stand upon His Word.
Remember, prayers based on God's Word carry confidence because they are rooted in God's promises. When you pray scriptures, you are not merely expressing your desires; you are agreeing with what God has already spoken.
Pray the Word, believe the Word, and watch God fulfill His Word in your life.
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Much of my work involves consulting (ESG, climate finance and energy policy), technical documentation and report writing for B2b tech (AI, blockchain and cyber). Majority of them need competent technical writers
"Just do good work and continue to post about it"
Advice too real.
A young friend that year was very reserved. But he wrote quite consistently on his blog, regarding a few tech insights.
I encouraged him to continue this way when he was placed at Flutterwave as a corps members until one day, GB himself told him, "i saw what you wrote...", pulled him into a high level meeting, and plugged him into a significant project in-house. The rest is history.
You think people don't notice what you do? Enter shege first, then you'll know there are always eyes watching.
Obtain grace to wake up in the night and pray. Every time you go to pray see yourself signing a register in the spirit.
Sermon Title: The Manifold Grace of God
Proximity is power. The closer you are to people living the kind of life you want, the faster you’ll get there. you’ll see how they think, how they move, and how they handle pressure. Being around that energy raises your standards and changes what you expect from yourself.
A rule that will lower your anxiety: Don’t replay conversations you can’t change, and don’t pre-live ones that haven’t happened. Focus on the next right action. Most stress comes from living everywhere except the present.