for the longest, i thought my love language was physical touch but i just realized that it's word of affirmation. i love being told how much i'm loved, i love when people explain to me in detail how they feel about me, i love being told little things, i love deep conversations.
some people test individuals who are kind to them by doing things to get a negative reaction from them. to prove that this caring person isn’t who they say they are, and will react in a cruel way like those who betrayed them. but when this person’s character remains unchanged despite being antagonised, the connection is often too damaged to repair and those people lose someone who truly cared.
Be with someone who will take care of you fr. Not just materialistically, but takes care of your soul, your well being, your heart, and everything that comes with you.
Girls, please fall in love with someone who genuinely wants you, patiently waits for your messages, understands you even in your madness, talks to you after a fight. The right guy sees the mess and moods but still chooses you.
Words are immensely powerful. They have the power to change minds, write manifestos, tell legends, spread ideologies, and more. The world may be built with hands, but it is ultimately created by words: You embody what you say and what you say becomes the reality you live in.
Sometimes replying to people overwhelms me. It can be the simplest reply required but if I’m in an anxious or overstimulated state, I just don’t want to communicate with anyone. Then I feel even worse about replying late or appearing anti-social / mean. It’s a vicious cycle!
Lemme tell you how easy it is to create life long bad memories for your kids.
The other day a conversation about lipstick with my toddler reminded me how easy it is to cause damage to these little beings.
as a therapist i can confirm. establishing a routine, mastering time management skills & accepting that healing isn’t linear so you don’t shame yourself when you can’t do things perfectly everyday. giving yourself a strict time frame in which you let depression “win” for the day.
“Let me ask my partner” is actually deeply healthy in many scenarios and shows that the person values the input of their significant other. Y’all just don’t want to consider someone else and think being hyper independent and “you don’t own me!!!” Leads to a successful PARTNERship. Yes it’s dumb and can be controlling when it comes things like outfits or something. But if you aren’t ready to genuinely consider someone else’s feelings and input on an activity or event or whatever that realistically will impact you both, you aren’t ready for an adult partnership.
After my keynote speech for an event, a Black man came up to me & commented on my red blazer & matching red nails. He said, “that’s right. Make them see you. I noticed & I see you.”
Often, “I see you” is used to compliment physical appearance, but that’s not how he meant it (1/3)