"Expectations"
They’re 8…They’re 9…They’re 10…They’re 11…They’re 12…They’re 13…
They are kids. They trip for no reason when they are walking. Their knees hurt because they are growing. They are starting to go through puberty. Their social life is becoming more and more important to them. They’re just a kid!
We as adults seem to forget this. And when they have a bad day, it doesn’t matter how much they train or who their coach is, it’s going to happen. It’s just that, a bad day. We have to keep this in perspective. If you played growing up, don’t forget how hard it was. If you didn’t, it may be hard to truly understand, but maybe go out on the field and try to do everything they are doing.
These kids love the game. They just want to play with their buddies and have a good time. They train to be the best they can be and we take that very serious, but let’s not forget that this is a game. In the end, they should never have a bitter taste in their mouth because of a coach whose priorities were in the wrong place and treated their players like garbage. They should not hate the game because of how their parents treated them when they had an off day. It’s not easy to hit. It’s not easy to locate every pitch you throw. It’s not easy to field a ground ball on a bumpy youth field. IT’S NOT EASY!
I have been in the dugout for many games (who knows how many youth games and approx. 3,400 professional games) and unless your last name is Jeter, and you are on a winning team nearly every year, you WILL most likely see just as many losses as you will wins, over the course of your baseball life. It’s just a game. I love to compete, but I’m here to tell you, that losing a ball game is not the end of the world. They won’t win every game just as they won’t lose every game. In fact, the truth is, EVERY player will grow more from failure than they will from success as failure is a much better teacher.
Coaches and Parents, while we are always out there to win, we have to remember that no matter what the scoreboard says at the end of the day, it’s the experience they are gaining. It’s them getting to do what they are passionate about. It’s them developing great life skills along the way.
Find a coach. Find coaches. Find a program. Find an organization that realizes this. One that focuses more on the person than they do the win. Find those with a passion for the kids and teaching. Find those with experience and knowledge. Find those who have, and have proved to have, a mindset of development, no matter what time of year it is.
THIS IS YOUTH BASEBALL, not the big leagues. Keep your Expectations realistic.
Just my view…
All I care about is the kids getting better. Them enjoying the game and being excited for their next season.
I feel winning is a by-product of real development. Development is learning and then providing reps…Repeat. The process of growth varies by player and that’s part of the challenge of coaching. We as coaches need the skills and ability to help them all from all angles of the game. If we have weaknesses in our knowledge and ability, we either need to find those who have those different strengths and get their help or dig deep and get better ourselves.
The game is about them and them only. Once things start to get twisted and become more about a team’s name, a coaches name or adult emotions, drama will always be present. Most every problem there ever is out there can be trailed back to how the adults carried themselves. The kids end up being caught in the middle. And in some cases unfortunately take the brunt of those adult issues.
Keep it all in perspective. It’s their game. It’s their experience. Our playing days are long over. It’s time to give back and help them get the most out of this short phase in their life.
@DistinctiveFoto@BushHomer@BenLobbMP Thank you Francine for - as always -doing a fantastic job and for bringing in great people. Homer was a great celebrity coach and awesome guy.
@BradleyGloves@LegKickNationOG 100%!! To get them out I pitch and the team plays 4x4x4 ! Be great if they would self organize and do it on their own, but this works and they enjoy it. I don't coach, just pitch and watch and enjoy!
PLAYERS: You might not always be the most gifted athlete on your team, but you can always find ways to improve yourself and your team. Great teams have great teammates. No matter what your talent level is, you can become your team's most "gifted" teammate.
This! So many keys to coaching a winning team. “The positive demeanor he had.” “The calming influence.” “Understand players make mistakes (freedom to fail).” “He allows his players to be themselves, to play relaxed.” We need more of this in HS/College/pro. Too many coaching tight