Saving your wife from a 9–5 job is the ultimate flex.
Not because work is bad.
But because freedom is rare.
It means she does not wake up to alarms she hates.
She does not beg for leaves.
She does not drain her best years under someone else’s clock.
It means her time belongs to her.
Her energy stays in the home, the body, the mind, the children, the ideas she actually cares about.
This is not about control.
This is about protection.
A man who can say,
“You work because you want to, not because you have to”
has already won a game most people never even enter.
Money can buy cars.
Status can buy applause.
But buying peace for your woman
and choice for her life
that’s real power.
Old-school responsibility.
Modern-day dominance.
A woman is power. She carries wisdom and perspective that shape decisions.
That strength should not be wasted in an office where it barely matters.
A family needs her presence, her judgment, her influence.
That is where her power creates something lasting.
We are all so fucking lucky.
We are the luckiest mfers in history.
You can fly anywhere on Earth in less than 24 hours.
Your great-grandfather died within 50 miles of his birthplace.
You can talk to anyone alive from your pocket, for free.
You can start a business from your toilet.
You can learn ANYTHING, instantly, for free.
Nearly everyone before you died young, never left their village, had three career options.
They’d sell their fucking souls for ONE DAY of your life.
Travel the world. Make friends. Build cool shit. Enjoy it. We won the lottery.
You can just do things.
So go do them.
Plan later what.
Fortune favors the fast.
I stole this idea and now use it with every single employee.
It’s the best illustration I’ve seen of teaching someone to be high agency.
It says there are 5 levels of work:
Level 1: “There is a problem.”
Level 2: “There is a problem, and I’ve found some causes.”
Level 3: “Here’s the problem, here are some possible causes, and here are some possible solutions.”
Level 4: “Here’s the problem, here’s what I think caused it, here are some possible solutions, and here’s the one I think we should pick.”
Level 5: “I identified a problem, figured out what caused it, researched how to fix it, and I fixed it. Just wanted to keep you in the loop.”
Using this framework, here’s what I say to every new employee…
You will live at Level 4 from Day 1 and as we build trust you will rise to Level 5.
Being high agency doesn’t just mean tackling problems in this way. It means your entire way of working should be oriented to being a Level 4+ employee.
Plz feel free to steal it as well.
And ty @stephsmithio for the framework!
my favourite quote from atomic habits by James clear;
"It doesn't make sense to continue wanting
something if you're not willing to do what it takes to get it. If you don't want to live the lifestyle, then release yourself from the desire. To crave the result but not the process, is to guarantee disappointment"
Happy Independence Day, India! You’re an unwieldy mess but you’re home.
From tyrannical leaders to broken ballots, you’ve had it all in the last 78 years and yet, you managed to not descend into whacky political experiments like Communism or Third World staples like military rule. Despite an overwhelmingly lopsided demographics, you resisted the tempting draw of theocracy that so many of your neighbors couldn’t.
And not somehow.
Your commitment to democracy and dialog is not some fluke but a deliberate aspect of your character. You built this commitment over millennia of ideological and social refinement.
Whatever the White Man went, he made it White. From America to Australia, the world is littered with societies that only hold their originality as relics in reservations and textbooks. Not so with you. You remained India before, and you remain India after.
That too is no fluke. Your commitment to your identity is a culmination of thousands of years of unbroken history. Of adversaries you destroyed along the way and of “outsiders” you assimilated without losing your own self.
Despite the flaws in your ways and speed-bumps in your journey, you’ve remained India, home to the world’s largest chunk of humanity for longer than any of your colonizer.
For a nation of your size, your challenges, your diversity, and your circumstances, I say you’ve done reasonably well.
So here’s to vintage, to longevity, to resilience, to everything you embody.
Happy Independence Day, India! You’re an unwieldy mess but you’re home.
Young people who want to become parents:
Have more than one child please.
It's not fair on the single child to look after the needs of the elderly parents. They get burnt out. I see this so often in my clinic and around me in society.
Why should the child look after the parents' needs alone when the parents have been selfish to have only one child? How much can one child bear?
And no, this is not about finances. Infact majority of people in the lower socio-economic group have more than one child. It's the upper middle class who stop at one child.
And if something happens to the parents prematurely, then that single child is left alone in the world, with no family. He/She is left an orphan. Even though, he may be an adult by then, he is still an orphan. And this will hit that adult child hard.
Heard of a news today, where both the parents who were around 55-60 years old died within 2 months of each other last year, and their only child, a son around 25 years old, also died tragically yesterday. He was apparently unwell since the death of his parents.
Read about Yash Birla, the popular Birla scion. Atleast here, the extended family rallied around him and he had a girlfriend whom he married. Read about what his wife has to say about the painful ordeal in their first couple of years of married life. He recovered, not everyone can be like Yash Birla.
In today's day and age, one isn't having such close ties with extended family members.
If a couple decides to have only one child, then the couple should and must involve the extended family, how much ever differences they may have with their extended family. Their only child should get the love and affection of their uncles, aunts and his/her cousins, especially the cousins.
Why should that child suffer just because parents don't see eye to eye with their extended family?? Then have, another child.
Because once the parents die, their only child will have the comfort of his cousins, with whom he has beautiful sibling bond with.
And life is livable again.
It's takes a village to raise a child. And a child should live in that village, this will give him security and confidence to carry out with life. No child (including an young adult child) should live alone.
Pratik Joshi had been living in London for six years. A software professional, he’d long dreamed of building a life abroad for his wife and three young children, who stayed back in India.
After years of waiting for due clearances the dream was finally coming true. Just two days ago, his wife, Dr. Komi Vyas, a renowned doctor in Udaipur, resigned from her job. The bags were packed, goodbyes said, the future within reach.
This morning, the family of five, filled with hope and excitement, boarded Air India flight 171 to London. They clicked a selfie. Sent it to relatives. A one-way journey to a new life. But they never made it. The plane crashed. No one survived.
In a matter of moments, a lifetime of dreams turned to ash. A brutal reminder, life is terrifyingly fragile. Everything you build, everything you hope for, everything you love, it all hangs by a thread. So while you can, live, love, and don’t wait for happiness to start tomorrow.
The world is on track for 2.5C-2.9C of heating, which would almost certainly be beyond tipping points for the collapse of the Greenland & west Antarctic ice sheets. The melting of those ice sheets would lead to 12 metres of sea level rise.
How will the displaced look back at us?
India's Loony Left - so out of touch with public sentiment, so lacking in regard for the armed forces or the idea of country being bigger than government , so disparaging of war, even in war- is the reason the Right Wing gets to make electoral mincemeat of them.
Why so much financial support by countries which were even resource deficient and in conflict?
Watch this UTube Channel PGurus which gave this info. #sreeiyer and understand for yourself.
Building hardware in India is even harder if you have to make your office and cars and homes IP67. #underwater#batteryok#engineersnotok en route to work today